I was always touching my kids when they were babies. Picking them up, squeezing their cheeks, pinching their toes, rubbing noses. You just can’t help it with babies. But as the kids get bigger, things change. I don’t really pick most of them up anymore. They don’t need me to do as many things for them. And it’s funny to watch them wrestle with getting older but still wanting to climb up in my lap or grab on to my leg like a barnacle. One of the kids won’t go to bed until I give him a hug…but at the same time, he’d never actually say this out loud. He’ll just sit on his bed, calling, “Mooooom? I’m going to sleep now” until I come tuck him in.
So I have to remember to still give them lots of hugs and kisses. And pats on the head. And to hold hands sometimes, even when they’re not sure if they’re too old for it. It doesn’t come as naturally anymore, but they still need it. (Oh, who am I kidding? So do I.)
This post is part of a series on simple ways to connect with your children. Nothing expensive. Nothing complicated. Simple.