After bringing home four new little babies, I think I finally know what I’m doing.
Actually, we were pretty good after Baby #2. That’s always the way it works, isn’t it? For the first baby, you have everything ready to go three months before your due date. You have the car seat professionally installed (we took ours to the California Highway Patrol office and had someone put it in for us). You have enough outfits to outfit several babies…for an entire year.
By the last baby, my husband was calling me as he was leaving for the hospital, asking where we’d stashed the car seat. Our first baby had his whole room set up – our last one didn’t even have a room for the first few months.
I learned a lot in those years – about the things we needed and the things we didn’t. About when to worry and when to let go. Here are a few of the things I wish I’d known the first time around:
5 things I wish someone had told me about having a new baby
1.) Don’t correct anyone changing a diaper.
Seriously. Leave the room if you have to. You have a willing helper, dealing with a task you’re going to be doing hundreds (thousands?) of times in the next couple years. If they’re helping you out by changing the baby – let them! This goes for spouses, babysitters, in-laws – everyone. The worst that’s going to happen if they do it wrong is that the diaper will fall off and you’ll have to do it again. The worst that’s going to happen if you continually take over and micromanage diaper-changing is that you will get stuck doing all of it. (Of course, I’m referring to Diapering Technique only – if there is a safety issue, definitely step in).
2.) You don’t need a changing table.
We always purchased furniture for our babies that would transition from a changing table to storage as they got older. You won’t need the changing table forever, so if you can get a dresser or cabinet that is safe for changing babies but transitions, it can last them their entire childhood. Since September is officially Baby Safety Month, it’s a good time to remind us all to never leave a baby on a changing table unattended.
3.) Use good diapers.
I tried so many different diapers – it feels like I tried every brand out there. But ultimately, I diapered the kids in Luvs from Walmart because it was cheaper than other name brands I saw, but the quality was there. I tried several generic diapers and ended up with disastrous results. One just had this really weird chemical smell. One completely fell apart, so that those diaper crystals inside came out all over my little baby’s pajamas. Several just didn’t hold and the kids wet through them in no time. Luvs was great quality for less cost – no wonder it’s the official diaper of experienced parents!
4.) Use diaper coupons.
I used to think I was too busy to clip coupons. But you really can save a LOT using diaper coupons. For one thing, you buy tons of diapers when you have a baby so any savings add up! Diaper coupons also tend to be high value. In fact, look for the brandSAVER coupon in this Sunday’s paper (August 26) to save $2 off two bags or one box of Luvs diapers at Walmart.
5.) Don’t worry about sleeping when the baby sleeps.
Everyone tells you to do that. Sometimes you can, and it’s awesome. But I would feel guilty when I did something else, like I was breaking the cardinal rule of new motherhood. It’s okay to shower, or kill time on facebook, or even just spend the time staring at this new little face while she sleeps peacefully. Do whatever you want when the baby sleeps…and don’t feel bad about it! (when she’s a teen and sleeping til noon, you can catch up on all the sleep you’re missing now…trust me)
What’s the one piece of advice you wish someone had given you when you were a new mom?
This is a sponsored conversation written by me on behalf of Luvs at Walmart. The opinions and text are all mine.